I do the wrong things, often and with relish, because after spending years working myself to death for validation I realised the patriarchal agenda had succeeded at reducing me, like many other women, to just one thing. Women are expected to find their identity within roles and justify their existence by excelling at them. This is how it transformed my life the day I decided the roles would have to find their place in my life without changing me.
There is a social trend that dictates women must hate each other: the tomboy must hate the makeup artist, the homemaker must hate the career women, the bookish must hate the party girls, but in my experience I have faced more dislike from the women most similar to me than the ones that were very different. Is this real? If it is, why? Why does it feel like the feminists hate other feminists?
Every other person will tell you that marriage in India has changed because women don’t adjust the way they used to as they are now financially independent. While this statement could not be more fantastical on many levels, the worst of it is that it still blames women for the untoward behaviour men are allowed to exhibit within a marriage. So if financial independence in women does not cause divorce, what does? We discuss, in our latest piece.
Growing up in India, most of us never saw our parents express any physical affection to one another and very few of us are comfortable displaying affection to our partners in public. This may seem like a personal choice but it speaks to a much deeper culture of shame, taboo and violence.
We’re often told that love and marriage aren’t the same thing and it is ordained that everything will change after marriage. Yet it is not marriage that necessitates these changes, it’s the manner in which we socially conduct affairs of the heart. Nothing changed in my life after I married, and this is why.
Even with the revocation of Article 377, being of the LGBTQI community in India is rife with social and political issues. In this piece I discuss how in my experience being a bisexual woman has you reduced both within and outside the community.
The pop-culture based representation of the sexual habits of women is woefully limited but with the right amount of levity, it’s also hilarious. Read our evaluation of the sexual habits of television-women for a few deeply sad laughs.
The Rajasthan Police has taken into custody a young woman named Sheena Choudhary whose parents alleged she was kidnapped after she refused to marry a man of their choosing. Everyday women are emotionally and financially held hostage under the garb of familial love, is leaving your family the only path to freedom that remains?
Married people often make jokes at the expense of their partners to the point where the comedic trope of marriage is two people who seem to hate each other. This form of humour is often dubbed harmless, but it has a real impact on relationships and people. In this piece we discuss how attacks on your partner under the guise of humour are harmful to relationships.
A poem about having to be invisible in love by Aarushi Ahluwalia.